How to Recognize a Golden Retriever
Do you have a Golden Retriever in your Family zoo?
Golden Retriever children are our 'Steady Eddies.' This child's behavioral style reflects a love of routine - it gives them security. They will have a few good friends; loyalty comes natural to them. They are the caregivers of the world and often are attracted to helping professions.
What about the Golden Retriever Child?
Golden Retrievers like it when things are spelled out for them. This child's behavior inventory reflects strong loyalty. They are more interested in pleasing others than themselves. They like receiving direction and carrying out tasks. They often have the gift of Service.
They do not like change
Unlike the Otter and Lion behavioral strengths, Golden Retriever children do not naturally like change. It takes them time to adjust to new situations. They need to be informed in advance of any major change and need help to make adjustments. If moving to a new school, neighborhood or home, take time to prepare them long in advance. Family trauma such as divorce or parental separation will require active parenting to prepare this child. They may be especially slow to recover from the trauma. Loving patience is the order of the day.
They are loyal
They have a few deep friendships. They will be loyal to those friends. Because one of their behavioral strengths is the desire to please, you can aid in this child's development by helping them to identify their own likes, dislikes, and verbalize them rather than just agreeing with the preferences of others. As adults, they will often stay with one organization for decades. They will not change unless they see the need for change. They are patient, predictable and steady.
Loss of relationship
This is their biggest fear. Because of this, they find it very difficult to face conflict and express strong opinions; instead, they hold them inside. They need to learn to say difficult things to keep important relationships in balance. Because Golden Retrievers often choose Lions as their mates, it is important their child development includes training in identifying personal desires and stating them clearly in order to maintain a healthy self-identity and not lose themselves in striving to please others.
Tips For Effective Communication With A Golden Retriever
Do:
• Begin with a personal comment
• Present your case with a soft voice in a non-threatening way
• Ask 'how' questions to draw out their opinions
Don't:
• Rush into business - show personal interest
• Don't domineer or demand
• Don't force them to respond quickly. They need time to reflect.
